Mindfulness Spotlight: An Attitude of Non-Judgement

| June 15, 2020

By Rene RedDay, M.Ed

We are living in changing times. Everything is new, including new or amplified challenges. We often meet changes and problems with a myriad of feelings. Amidst current changes, I noticed I had been “should-ing” myself. Telling myself, I should be more focused. I should be punctual. I should reach out more. I should fix everything in my house. I shouldn’t make mistakes. I shouldn’t have negative feelings. However, I reminded myself that mindfulness is, paying attention, on purpose, in the present moment, with an attitude of non-judgment. (Kabat-Zinn, 1994) Aha, an attitude of non-judgment.

So, I took a few minutes to breathe. I provided myself an opportunity to notice my good and not so good feelings. I reminded myself that acknowledging our emotions is an essential first step to tend to our social-emotional health. I gave myself permission to feel them and breathe through them. Although the feelings were still there after mindful breathing, they were acknowledged and accepted; therefore, they also felt more manageable.  

This letter comes as a reminder that it is in our best interest to feel our emotions rather than stuff them. We must allow ourselves an opportunity to see, hear, and touch them. Just like we tend to a young child with big emotions, we must permit ourselves to acknowledge and care for our big feelings. Take time to validate your feelings. Allow yourself the opportunity to feel whatever you are feeling with an attitude of non-judgment. By caring for our emotions, we care for ourselves. By caring for ourselves, we also expand our capacity to care for others.

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Rene RedDay, M.Ed, Family and Community Engagement Consultant, Building Community, LLC, Flagstaff, AZ. Call 928-266-8006 for more information. 

— CCC&Y is excited to partner with Building Community.  Leadership expansion is an important pillar of Self-Healing communities.  It is our intent to increase voice, connection and partnership throughout the county through this very targeted service.  We have engaged Rene to help increase our reach for prevention initiatives, support our child abuse and substance abuse prevention strategies across the county and to assist with increasing our NEAR-informed (neuroscience, epigenetics, ACES and Resiliency) capacityVirginia Watahomigie, executive director, Coconino Coalition for Children & Youth
 
— Rene RedDay is also leading CCC&Y’s weekly Family Connection Zoom Meeting at 3 p.m. Thursdays. he meeting is open to parents, caregivers, professionals — All individuals in our community. REGISTER HERE
 
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Rene RedDay, M.Ed, Family and Community Engagement Consultant, Building
Community, LLC, Flagstaff, AZ. Call 928-266-8006 for more information. 
 
— CCC&Y is excited to partner with Building Community.  Leadership expansion is an important pillar of Self-Healing communities.  It is our intent to increase voice, connection and partnership throughout the county through this very targeted service.  We have engaged Rene to help increase our reach for prevention initiatives, support our child abuse and substance abuse prevention strategies across the county and to assist with increasing our NEAR-informed (neuroscience, epigenetics, ACES and Resiliency) capacityVirginia Watahomigie, executive director, Coconino Coalition for Children & Youth
 

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