First Things First — Understanding what your baby is saying

| August 9, 2022

View this email in your browser

 

August 2022

 

Understanding what your baby is saying
By Rebecca Parlakian
 
I remember looking down at my wailing newborn daughter and telling her, “If I just knew what you wanted, I would do it!”
 
Babies are born with some ability to communicate what they are feeling and need from us. But it takes practice to get the message. Learning to see these (sometimes) tough-to-notice cues can help us meet our babies’ needs.
 
Research shows that getting to know your baby’s cues also helps the two of you build a strong, secure attachment — a loving, trusting relationship.
 
Do parents get it right every time? Heck no. But noticing and responding to your baby’s expressions and gestures is what great parenting is all about. Your baby learns that they can trust you, feel safe with you, and rely on you. And that’s what strong families are made of.
 
Understanding and Responding to Your Baby’s Cues
While it’s impossible to list every cue your baby might use, think of this as the starter kit to figuring out what your baby is trying to say:

I’m hungry
When baby is ready for some milk or formula, they may:

  • Keep hands/fists near their mouth, suck hands
  • Make sucking or “lip smacking” noises
  • Pucker their lips
  • Search or root for the nipple
  • Clench their fists
  • Use a “hunger” cry—listen to see if your baby has a distinct cry when hungry

I’m done eating
When baby is all done with milk for now, they may:

  • Suck more slowly or stop sucking
  • “Play” with the nipple – mouth it, rather than suck
  • Turn or push away from the nipple
  • Relax/open their hands
  • Look drowsy or fall asleep

 

I’m ready to play
When your baby is ready for play and interaction, you may see them:

  • Gaze at your face, making eye contact
  • Have a bright, calm expression
  • Turn their head or eyes toward you
  • Become more still; arm and leg movements are fluid, not jerky
  • Reach out to you, or stretch fingers or toes toward you
  • Slow or stop sucking
  • Smile
  • Coo or babble

I’m done playing
When your baby needs a break from interaction (play, talking, stimulation), you may see them:

  • Turn their head/eyes away from you
  • Have a dull/glazed expression
  • Cry, become fussy
  • Arch their back
  • Wrinkle their forehead
  • Grimace or frown
  • Close eyes, or eyes become droopy
  • Yawn or fall asleep
  • Burp, hiccup, pass gas
  • Squirm or kick
  • Put their hand in their mouth

Your baby will also develop many of their own ways of communicating, too. (My daughter always pulled on her earlobes when she was tired.)
 
And before you know it, that tiny baby in your arms will be standing up and able to tell you exactly what they want, right now!
 
Rebecca Parlakian is senior director of programs for ZERO TO THREE, a national nonprofit working to ensure that all babies and toddlers have a strong start in life.

 

Parenting comes with mistakes and missteps. Positive parenting isn’t about being perfect or always being cheerful. It’s about what parents do every day — challenges included — and keeps the big picture in mind. What makes a parent great is recognizing when things haven’t gone right and responding with love to repair the relationship. That’s positive parenting in action.

Learn more about Positive Parenting

More from First Things First

 

Counting kicks is a simple way to monitor baby’s well-being

Find free early childhood programs across Arizona

First Things First is Arizona’s early childhood agency, with free programs, information and resources to support children’s health and development.

Copyright © 2022 First Things First, All rights reserved.

 

 

Tags:

Category: Child Welfare, Education, Educational Opportunities, Health, Programs, Resources

Comments are closed.